The Anchor and the Editor
One of you has gone flat. One of you is hard on themselves for all of it.
How an Anchor and an Editor carry hard things together: where you’re good, where it rubs, and what to say.
Find out which you areAbout a minute of quick taps. Then send it to them.
Where you’re good together
The Anchor doesn’t judge, which gives the Editor’s inner voice nothing to work with, and the Editor’s care keeps showing up for the Anchor.
Where it rubs
The Editor reads the flatness as something they did. The Anchor can’t find the energy to say it isn’t.
What helps
The Anchor says ‘it isn’t you’ with the little energy they have. The Editor takes it the first time.
An Anchor might say
“It isn’t you. I just don’t have much in me today.”
An Editor might say
“You don’t owe me an explanation. I’m glad you’re here.”
Loving each other
If you love an Anchor
- Invite them to small things, and keep inviting even when they say no.
- Don’t ask them to explain the quiet. Make no big deal of it when they show up.
If you love an Editor
- Say feedback plainly and once. They’ll hear it louder than you meant it.
- When they brush off a compliment, say it again anyway.
The two of you
Share it
For the Editor to your Anchor, or the Anchor to your Editor.
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