Two Givers

Two people making sure everyone else is okay, including each other.

How two Givers carry hard things together: where you’re good, where it rubs, and what to say.

About a minute of quick taps. Then send it to them.

Where you’re good together

You’re two of the kindest people anyone knows, and you notice each other’s needs better than most.

Both say yes, both resent it a little, and neither says so, because the other seems happy.

Take turns being the one who wants something. Say it as a want, not a question.

“Your turn. What do you want?”

“No is a full answer. You can use it with me.”

If they seem fine, ask again. Their first answer is often about keeping you comfortable.
When they finally say no, take it well. It cost them something to say it.

You read a room before anyone has spoken. “People think saying yes is easy for you. It isn’t.”

For the other Giver in your life.

Penny isn’t a therapist or an emergency service. Urgent help: call or text 988, or call 911.